Difficult
Performance Conversations Are No Fun
Most managers (including me) dread difficult performance conversations with
their direct reports and are willing to try almost anything to avoid them.
Whether it is delivering bad news, discussing sensitive subjects, or firing
an employee, the most upsetting performance conversations are the ones that
evoke anger, yelling, accusations, defensiveness or tears.
As appealing as it may be to avoid a
potential confrontation with a coworker, we have found that high performing
team leaders face these conversations without dread. They are adept at
managing conflict in a way that creates clarity, trust, and accountability.
What do they do differently? .
There Are Countless
Tools and Techniques Available
There are countless performance communication tools and techniques
available to help make performance management discussions better. They range
from better listening, to being more empathetic, to being more direct.
Used correctly, they can all help make difficult conversations about performance
more productive.
The Six Most Common
Difficult Performance Conversation Mistakes
When we ask employees to list the most frustrating and ineffective aspects of
ineffective performance conversations at work, six rise to the surface:
- Oversimplifying
the issue
- Not
showing enough respect
- Getting
too personal
- Not
gathering enough data
- Making
bad assumptions
- Not
having enough empathy or compassion
The True Root Cause
- Bad Performance Expectations
Avoiding these common mistakes will certainly help. But we find that they
often do not address the root cause of most difficult performance
conversations - a lack of clear performance expectations.
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